Posted by: mrdmcday | April 16, 2010

Relationship Issue #2: Ixnay on the PDA

The Rundown:

Me and my bf have been together for 2 1/2 years, and all of a sudden he doens’t want to act like we are dating when we’re in public, but if it’s just me and him in a private room then he’s okay with it. He told me that he doesn’t like PDA, so we can’t even hold hands =(.

But it’s really getting annoying, why can’t we just hold hands in public??! We don’t ever kiss in public or anything. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

The Response:

Talk to him about if you already haven’t. While PDA isn’t necessary to prove you love someone, complete lack of it shows that you two are merely friends as opposed to being in a relationship. You look…stale-disconnected and that’s not how a couple should present themselves in public. While you guys are each other’s friends, the public should know that there is a commitment there when you go about. It isn’t necessarily their business but, at the same time, when someone gets to eyeing either one of you, it should register that you’re taken. Otherwise, a more awkward situation could occur.

I mean…holding hands? Especially after 2 1/2 years?! Geez. Tell the guy to get a grip and just do it! Lol. He should be comfortable with it by now. Otherwise, it hints at the fact that he may be ashamed of you-just someone he can be with when the lights aren’t on you.

But think about it. There’s going to come a time when every couple is going to have to be in the spotlight-whether it’s forced or natural-a trial that defines who you two are. It could be as big as when either one of you sees some type of great accolade or success or as little as being around one another’s new friends.

Either way, when that time comes, you’re going to have to ask yourself-when that light comes on and it’s time for you guys to strut your stuff, is he going to be there or are you going to be walking alone?

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